you're on to something when you say "i feel annoyed" instead of "you annoy me" ......."I" statements are less judgmental and threatening.....and yes, sometimes folks annoy me....never here at psych central though.....but in real time...yes...like when i go to Wallymart and people stop and stand to look at products, blocking me from going on down the aisle.....that is annoying. and my landlady annoys me big time.......not enough heat here.....anyway, try thinking a statement through and use the word ""I" as much as possible. pat