I'm sorry too ((((Desiree)))), it's saddening, and I've been there as well. For me, I took the advise of people who told me to, first and foremost, focus on my own life, on my own recovery, and try hard to let go of the painful thoughts of wishing the person might return. Let time heal your broken heart Desiree. I did eventually get through my breakups [more than one], but I drank a lot as well, which is something I do not recommend.

I think at the end of the day, whatever your ex partner is going through, leave him be now. Yes, focus on you. He knows what you're thinking.

Sending you my best wishes.