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Originally Posted by awkwardlyyours
Echos — I am not understanding the issue, I think.
I don’t see anything at all wrong with having wished him or even straight up telling him (which you didn’t) the wish for him to be a father to you.
I don’t see why that is remotely perceived as a threat by him.
I don’t see how that is putting yourself “alongside” (super weird phrasing) his children.
But, even if that is true, so bloody what?
That is the stuff of therapy.
I don’t get your therapist’s logic in all this, at all.
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Agree.
I've straight up told my T I wish she was a substitute parent to me, I view her as a substitute parent, that she had adopted me when I was a child etc. She has always accepted these intense attachment feelings. Hell, in her modality of schema therapy, the clinician books say it's not uncommon for clients to have such feelings and to indeed sometimes even see the therapist as a substitute parent and keep in contact after therapy ends.