I would say if you look at the content of the managing, or if you look at what preceded this need to manage, you might find some important clues.

I have also found for myself that looking more deeply into what I say the other is doing, it can be that it might be I who is prompting the behavior.

From my memory about your earlier posts, I got the impression (and could totally be wrong) that you were the angry and defensive one, because Madame T would not give you the validation you required.