I get that and I agree. For me, and I'm usually not too open on here, but with my dogs, they were literally my world. So many things kept happening in my life that turning to them, was all I had for comfort and happiness. As they aged, the fear of losing them took over but I loved them very much. Putting my dog down in Oct was the hardest thing I've ever done, I didn't WANT to let him go, but out of love, I knew I had to... and since then, this is why with my T and my other dog, the "fear of abandonment" has snuck into things. I keep thinking, great.... everyone I love is gonna leave me now.

My T being away on this break has been tough but it's really tested my love for him VS obsession or whatever... and honestly...I've been able on my own to work out my issues of losing him while he was away and I've become ok with it, my compassion has turned to wanting him happy and doing what he needs to go for his health etc, VS my need to see or speak to him... I think that's love.

I'm not gonna say It has not been hell not having any contact, a big part of that for me is a massive routine change but then again, he's also the biggest support I have in life and naturally, when he's away, everything has been falling apart in my life so the "desire" to talk to him in some form is higher than it has been on the trip. However I'm still respecting him and not bothering him and telling myself, he needs this break... and we will talk in a few short days.

So yes you are right in a sense too that I don't think everyone can agree on this but I think in my case, I would not call it obsession. If anything, I'm obsessed with my dog... but mostly because he's just so cute