Hello Hawk: Since this is your first post here on PC... welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find PC to be of benefit.

Unfortunately I don't know as there is a lot I can suggest here. In the end, you only have control over yourself & what you do. As much as you may want to help your gf, in the end only she can help herself. I do think you are correct in not wanting to put additional stress on her. There is a danger here I believe that by trying too hard you could well push her away.

I don't recall you mentioning if your gf sees a therapist. If not this might be a good thing. And depending on how things go here, this may be something for you to consider for yourself too. Likewise, some couples counseling may be something to consider at some point along the way. My best wishes to you both...