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Originally Posted by CantExplain
One of the things that prompted me to leave Madame T, was the realisation that I was managing her. By this I mean that I had to be careful what I said to avoid triggering a negative reaction. "Walking on eggshells." She could be angry and defensive.
I felt that one shouldn't have to manage ones own therapist. But perhaps I was naive or unreasonable.
Do you feel you have to manage your therapist? Is that a normal part of the T relationship, or is it a sign that something is seriously wrong?
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To me this is a sign that something is seriously wrong. I never "managed" any of my Ts and the moment I felt I had to do it was the moment when it was clear to me that it was time to find a new T. I was in therapy for myself and I needed to feel safe to say whatever the heck I wanted. I wouldn't settle for any "management" of T.