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Originally Posted by CantExplain
One of the things that prompted me to leave Madame T, was the realisation that I was managing her. By this I mean that I had to be careful what I said to avoid triggering a negative reaction. "Walking on eggshells." She could be angry and defensive.
Do you feel you have to manage your therapist? Is that a normal part of the T relationship, or is it a sign that something is seriously wrong?
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i can relate to this. there were many times that i had to request that my ex-T put on his 'T hat' for fear that if he did not have his 'professional attire' on, that he would take what i was saying personally and to heart. he even thanked me a couple of times for reminding him to put his hat on! as far as i'm concerned, this should never have been my role in the relationship or in therapy.
on a side note, what does it mean if your T tells you (the client) they feel like they are 'walking on egg shells' and are afraid of doing or saying something that would upset you?? ex-T said this to me quite a few times, and every time it was very disheartening to hear because it clearly showed that he was too fearful to 'push me' in therapy and it felt like he did not trust me and my own process. this definilty was about him and his insecurities, but at the same time, him pointing out his insecurities felt both blaming and manipulating towards me and always left me feeling disappointed and frustrated.
