You are drawing way, way too big a conclusion from too little. For all I know, you may be heartless, uncaring, self-centered and just generally awful. I don't know you. But you know you. Do you have other reasons for thinking you're so awful?

Here's what I am hearing from you: "My husband criticised my decision the other morning, as a case of me not caring about including him. He's so disappointed that he has become really upset. Because of that my self-esteem has totally collapsed."

Are you trying to say that you have a husband who makes you feel bad about yourself?

Are you trying to say that you can't bear the thought of you disappointing someone because you strive so hard to please?

There's more here than meets the eye. Where is the "false accusation?" Your husband wishes he had been asked to join the group for breakfast. Maybe he really and truly is disappointed he wasn't there. It doesn't sound like you wanted to exclude him just to be mean. If that's what he is accusing you of, then he's being silly . . . or he's awfully insecure.

You sound like you feel persecuted. Does this really rise to that level? To be falsely accused and to have one's self-esteem destroyed and to think your spouse want's to keep tabs on you unreasonably is serious stuff. Are you making a bigger deal of this than is warranted? Is your husband blowing this out of proportion?

Is this part of a larger pattern?