Is it possible she trying to test you? I don't know but sometimes teenagers do that....test you to see if you continue to support them or back out. Maybe she is wanting reassurance? Just a thought, but probably completely wrong! But i am sorry you have had to see how much pain your daughter is in, but i think it is also amazing that at 14yrs she is so open with you and let you into such an intimate part of her life, i don't think i could have done that! You must be a wonderful supportive mother.