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Originally Posted by golden_eve
I am struggling right now with coping and need support around it.
I cannot talk too much to my bf about it because I don't want to stress him out or burden him. And I only see my therapist every other week due to financial reasons.
I have written about the issue in the work forum, so I won't be redundant, but I don't know how to cope with all the emotions I am carrying.
I am very anxious, I am very stressed, I am uncertain and am filled with self-doubts each and every day. I have guilt and remorse for making what I think was a big mistake. This is all so uncomfortable & difficult to carry around with me all the time.
I've never been good at coping. I've never had strong coping mechanisms. I don't exercise much, and I know I should, but I come home from work at 6 PM exhausted. I don't belong to a gym nor can I afford one. I know I should probably take a half hour walk at lunch during work, but that's when I can text freely with my bf and talk to him during the work day, so I choose to do that instead, which is important to me.
Maybe I should try meditation exercises? That's the one thing I can think of that may help me at this time since I probably won't make myself exercise?
Anyone else know how to cope during a very stressful & anxious time in your life?
If I don't reply right away, it's because I am at work and can't. Thanks so much in advance for any support you can give around this.  |
I am so sorry that you are struggling so much Eve. I actually think that
meditation could help you quite a lot. It helps me a lot. It does not make things all roses and sunshine all the time for me, but it has changed my life, actually. I can see how it would help you and the anxiety you struggle with because the point of meditation is to continually bring your thoughts back to either your breath, or a focal point. It can also be quite relaxing at times. Try
Headspace. I also googled "
Mindfulness App." The link is what I came up with. It seems like very good stuff. I have friends who use insight timer.
I also think it is wonderful that you can admit your "weakness" where it comes to coping skills. You can only go up from there. I definitely think that you can learn to strengthen them. Someday you could even have "Go-to" coping skills that you know really help you in times of crisis and deep stress. I am not at the top of my game either Some of my personal favorite coping skills are: distraction (taking my mind completely off my issue for a little while. for me, thats, reading a good book, watching tv or a movie, talking to someone else - not about my issue) , self soothing (taking a warm bath, listening to music that makes me feel better, doing things I enjoy that I know will soothe and make me feel better), mindfulness (usually meditation, but it can also be knitting, or just...BREATHING. Breathing actually really helps me).
Here's one more link for you:
Find balance during a moment of panic