I just thought of something else. For a long time, I was wanting "more" from T, but I could not put into words what "more" looked like.

After my book was published (I gave her the first copy!), she told me that she was proud of me...suddenly things fell into place, as THAT's what my "more" looked like! That was a genuine feeling, coming from her. I hadn't asked her to be proud of me. I hadn't even asked her to say Anything about it. It was a spontaneous admission from her.