Why believe there isn't some you can love and who loves you, Locust, instead of that there is someone you can love and who will love you back and have a fine life? Everything that is about the future is only belief, not fact or even necessarily more or less probable but that belief will make it so!

I didn't get married until I was 39 and met "the" person for me. He may not be the only person for me, but he'll certainly do until death does us part :-) When I was 21 my college roommate got engaged (they were a year behind me) and was lyrical about love, etc. LOL but one evening was telling me the story of what my love would be like when he came along? It was a wonderful story, I don't remember the details but the sense that "it could happen" stayed with me all the years until I met my husband when I was 34. I did despair once, in the middle of a main artery of Washington, D.C., but fortunately it was close to when I met my to-be husband.

But I can't imagine living with someone I didn't like or care about; why would one do that? One is still alone that way, a warm body isn't all that is needed for either a good marriage or companionship so one isn't lonely.

My father's sister will be 87 in April and has never married. There are all sorts of reasons why one might not be prone to marriage but none are inevitable. I'm "prone" to finding my way (good inherited directional sense, memory, map reading skills, etc.) but that doesn't mean I don't occasionally get lost. But just because I've been lost before I wouldn't give up trying to find what I'm looking for, what I "want".