I suppose you are not. I am not either.
We are a product of our genetic make up and our experiences. Especially the experiences we have in our formative years when we are literally creating our brains.
If those experiences are sub optimal the result is not going to be stellar.
Ever heard that thing about how the trees grow?
When people look at a tree that don't really ever question why the tree might lean to one side or be twisted or bent, or why it might be struggling to grow at all. People just know that it had the wind buffering it from one side or it had to grow its roots around the concrete path or its branches around the fence, or it didn't get enough nutrients or light or whatever. People just understand that the tree grew as well as it could in the environment it was in. They don't judge the tree and say it wasn't good enough or strong enough or normal enough or whatever.

The same should be true for people too.