Honestly this, I understand but at the same time you can't guide your life making choices that merely are influenced by this kind of thinking. what I mean is he is free to make his choice just as you are and every single relationship you try to start or have work is taking a chance on something that may not work out. It's part of finding a relationship that works. You can't find the one that does without taking the chance on it not working. Relax and let it happen whether that be finding out it's not for you or that you do want to go further. Make your choices purely on what you feel is right and good.


Of course you dont' want to hurt him. that's usually the stickler in things like this. But whether you go further or stop it is taking a chance on that happening anyway right? Anytime relationship talk is the subject someone being hurt is usually a risk factor.

But you cant' likely figure it out without any kind of action. You can think about it and ponder til the cows come home but without getting to know him in a courtship there will be too much information left out imo.