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Originally Posted by Menotshe
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I am Christian, always have been. I believe in heaven or hell after death (which doesn't always help the situation lol), not reincarnation or nothing for that. When I have my attacks I think about how I have such a big family and with such a big family someone is bound to go soon, and what if their doomed to hell.. I can't bare that, but God said he won't put more on you than you can bare, so if I can't bare it then I'll be the first in the family to die and I'm nor ready, Im afraid to just END. What if I go to hell? My family will be so crushed, my son will be without me, my body will lay cold and stiff somewhere. After I'm done thinking about all this, all I can say over and over again is "I just want to die today." I don't want to be in this world anymore." I just want to die."
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Oh, man. Okay — we’re really not supposed to discuss religion here but I’m not going to get into any theology (or lack of theology), but I would like to address your feelings. As a one-time Christian I can certainly empathize!
It sounds as if you have a few different concerns and fears — the reasonable but frightening assumption that family members are sure to die and fear for their salvation; the fear that the burden of dying will fall on you if family members are to be spared and the fear that, despite your faith, you’ve no assurance of salvation; the great fear that goes beyond hell and into nothingness (END) and a concern for the wellbeing of your loved ones. Also, a bit of morbid concern over your physical remains. All of these things are overwhelming — I know that I would be overwhelmed — but it’s not clear to me why you’d wish to die?
Do you feel as if your death would save your loved ones? Or that you cannot continue living with the overwhelming fear? Maybe something else?
Fear of death is universal, a comman human concern (maybe the common concern). Each of us attempt to deal with this fear in different ways; spiritual/religious beliefs are the most prevalent worldwide. Becker and the TMT boys offer a humanistic approach.
We have a need to not only deal with this fear but to have so great a comfort that we can, well, lead a life with (my opinion) a degree of bravery, so much so that we may become brave enough to even sacrifice our lives for others.
I would normally suggest that you might want to talk to a psychiatrist or therapist about your fear but instead I’ll first ask if you’ve spoken to a priest or pastor? Secondly, I’ll ask if you’d like to discuss the theological nature of your concerns and, if so, ask that you send me a Private Message.
I really, really, really want you to know that I strongly empathize with the fear that you’re feeling and the anxiety that accompanies this fear. I’ve not been able to overcome the fear or the anxiety; I just accept that I will die, as will all.
Take care.