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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
Good question, Golden Eve.
It’s a combination of our own flaws/pathology and that of the abusive other person that drew us in.
Take my friend for example; my boundary line that she crossed was way too generous. I should have ended that friendship when she wouldn’t stop taking jabs at me. I confronted her and said she better stop with the jabs, and for a while she did. In hindsight, I’d have been more wise to simply end the friendship at the first jab. I never take jabs at my friends, so why did I put up with it from her?
I’ve been reading every article I can. Like, “How to have a healthy relationship,” or “How to spot a narcissist”.
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My last narcopath friend was a gigantic douche bag. He would grasp at anything to try to hurt me. Even my dead parents weren't off limits. I chose to focus on his good attributes but it becomes exhausting.
Each one has known exactly how to tug at my heart strings and sucker me into their crap over and over again. The most famous line: no one understands me like you do or you're my best friend. I get guilted into putting up with too much for too long.
I'm just done.