That's when they're hurtful. Thinking of the insults that people have hurled at me, when there were no grains of truth in them, they did not hurt all that much, but when there were grains of truth in them, they hurt a lot. Maybe I shouldn't have listened to everything that said insults said, but when well-intentioned people are saying the same things that your haters say but in a more sugarcoated manner, don't you think it's time to change? It's not a coincidence that it was when I was dissatisfied with myself that people agreed with me.