I have found this to be almost impossible. That is, finding a therapist who specializes in adult autism. The tricky problem here is the word, "adult." I live in a state capital, too. I found one woman who specialized in adult autism, as she also had it. She did not take insurance and charged a very high rate to see someone. I saw her only 3-4 times and then lost her. I could not find another, there was just no way. I recommend calling one of the autism organizations to get a possible referral. Also, ask every therapist you know of if they know of any counselor with adult autism experience..
I have decided that any excellent therapist should be able to help an adult who has realized they have ASD or Asperger's. Good luck to everyone searching for a therapist who specializes in adult autism. This is almost non-existant. I also advise reading a lot of books on the subject. I have tried that but I only care about how it affects me, not others. I am trying to work this out. I wish you the best in your efforts to find someone to talk to. I also wish myself good luck with this. I may have found some excellent therapists at a crisis treatment center. I send love to all of you!