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Originally Posted by SalingerEsme
You and your T seem to be making palpable progress trusting one another. It seems like a two way street. He grows in understanding that though therapy is ultra important to you and you will email, that you have perfectly sane and sturdy limits all on your own, and he doesn’t need to worry - I think this was your example- that you will be found hiding in his bushes like he is one of the Beatles. Today, he let you know he values you and wants to be there, not ex MC.
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Yes, I think you're right about the two-way street in terms of trust. At one point a month or two ago he said something about "feeling this out along with you" to me. I feel like my relationship with him is different from his relationship with most clients. I mean, not in a sense of "I'm special," but that he's taking a chance doing therapy a bit differently with me than his usual model. His comments during last session about things with the musicians being more "shallow" sort of spoke to that. Because I think that suggests things are comparatively deep with me. I mean, he does have long-term, non-sports clients, but I get the sense this is different in some way.
But anyway, yes, I did use the "I won't be hiding in your bushes" comment (though without the Beatles), and I think maybe over the past 11 months, he's realized that, OK, yeah, maybe I'd look up and realize where he was the one weekend and watch him doing that online, but I'm not going to show up at his house or his son's school or anything like that. Like, I'm not a threat, I'm just attached. Maybe in part my giving back the stone before (without his asking me to do so) shows that I respect his limits. And my checking in about whether my emailing is OK, etc.