I’m seriously considering bailing on our session on Friday. And taking a break of at least a month. I’m really frustrated with your flakiness, and I don’t like paying you to discuss it with you. I know there’s value in practicing with expressing anger in what’s supposed to be a safe space. But it’s not feeling so safe at the moment.

It feels like there’s always a cost to receiving love. You are present, and open in session, and incredibly supportive when you’re available. But you’re also inconsistent, and seem to bring a heavy dose of countertransference sometimes.

Ours is obviously not a romantic relationship (nor would I ever want it to be), but there’s a parallel here to what I’ve said in the past about the cost of affection/love being sex. In case it’s not clear, it’s the form, not the content of the comparison that’s important here.

Your behavior is really disappointing, and once again, it feels like the only recourse I have is to walk away.