thank you all for the support and all the advice. I think what sabby said makes a lot of since. Standing up might help me i have never thought about that before. Usually I just wait and have my husband do it for me when he gets home. This Makes me feel guilty and like i am more of his child than his wife. I just get so nervous talking to people in public and on the phone that when they talk i get confused then frustrated, angry and then cry uncontrollably because they don't understand me. but i will try all the suggestions that you all gave me and i really do appreciate them thank you.