I think when the behaviors are totally abnormal it is difficult for people who even understand what is going on mentally with the person especially when their behavior takes them far out of reality not to say something to try to pull them back to reality even if it is impossible.

I think those are the mental illnesses that get the worst bad raps. Others may not be quite so obvious to people outside close relationships.

Not all mental illnesses are chemical imbalances either. Mine was totally not understood situational that kept going for 13 years until I finally was able to leave. Then it was shocking to me how much better I got in just a few months though it took me years to understand what happened with good therapy & wonderful new friends. I wish I could communicate to those previous mental health providers to teach them what was REALLY going on that created the environment that caused me to react the way I did.

My H does have mental issues that were totally undiagnosed until a few years before I left. Yes, he makes poor choices & is totally financially irresponsible. Would he be that way without his mental issues? Probably.....BUT the mental issues magnify the issues & make them worse & his condition is from birth....something that really caused him problems throughout his life & career but excused away because of there being no knowledge about the condition in those years so it was excused away by every other environmental thing in his life. Now there is knowledge it us obvious where the behaviors come from.

Abnormal behaviors whether they are environmental or mental will always be looked at with wonder as to the cause even if it is just a quirky personality & if it negatively effects those around them & actually causes harm mentally ir physical to those around them, it will create a cindition that causes a bad rap because of the harm that is done.

I hurt my daughter emotionally with my major depression & suicide attempts. It created issues that I had ro resolve when I finally healed.....but it doesn't surprise me that my behavior during those 13 years had a bad rap because it hurt those in my life & anything that hurts others creates a bad wrap situation & whether we like it or not we have to take rezpinsibility for our behaviors whether we are under control or not.