((((sally-i))))

Gentle Hugs (if that is okay). Sometimes, things are just left better alone even though it may be hard and we want so much to make things right and have no resentment there. Sometimes people do not know how to resolve problems for whatever reason. Maybe they never learned it growing up or it was something that never was done to them, so they cannot or will not give the thought of it to anyone else.

As long as you in your heart have made resolution, you can walk with your head up. Why put yourself through anymore fighting? You do not deserve it. You are a human being with needs and desires that should be met. If he cannot meet them, there is someone out there that can.

As far as holidays go, I understand. I get very quiet and down around holidays for more than one reason. My childhood ruined all holidays for me but also holidays were ruined by my ex-husband when he left me. I lost the holidays with my children and had to settle for holidays that were never on the original day. I do not know if that is the exact same way you feel, but, I just did not look forward to the holidays anymore because my children were not there.

Hun, sometimes trying to do the right thing is great but if only one person is willing to work on the problem then there is nothing you can do. You have done your part, the rest is up to him. Kill him with kindness--he will not know what to do. But at least you know in your heart that you are doing the right thing.

Keep writing and reaching out here. You are cared about and validated for what you feel. You are not alone, and I do care.

cami