Hey Sept, I am sorry for all of this upset and turmoil. I too feel that unless we choose to we should not have to die alone no matter who we are or what we have done. I also wanted to tell you that I have some different ideas about the dying experience and the gift of helping people in the final stages of their lives. If you ever want to talk about it let me know. Hoping as things settle you will feel better. By the way, tell your BIL and SIL to GROW up!