I am not familiar with the Chinese culture, I was familiar with the Japanese culture, and they were polite to outsiders, but they are still outsiders. They take pride in their “sameness”. My daughter was born in Japan, and we received a very polite letter explaining that she was not welcome to become a citizen there.

One of my friends in Japan was married to a citizen of the UK serving in the U.S. Air force. They had two children, the eldest was born on a military base therefore was able to become a U.S. citizen and traveled on a U.S. passport. Her youngest was born in a Japanese hospital and had no country. He was not welcome to be a Japanese citizen (as his mother was), nor American as his brother was, and for some reason they were unable to get a British passport.

Their father was severely injured in a car accident and had to be medi-vaced to the Tripler Army Hospital in Hawaii. She was unable to bring her youngest son with her. It was a very sad situation.

I do not support racism in any way, my own children are a mix of just about everything. I do however understand the older generation wishing for their children to marry someone of their own culture. You can’t control who you fall in love with, but some differences are difficult to overcome. I hope that my children marry someone that has a similar belief system to my own. I could care less what race they are, but their belief system is important to me.

Okie - I love your response!!!!