An update on the situation. While I was away on business, I got a notification from Facebook that it was my uncle's birthday. I decided that I wanted him to have a good birthday, so I called him and wished him a happy birthday. It went fairly well. I steered clear of giving any information on anything. I also went by a good friend's advice that it really doesn't matter what I tell him, he will probably make **** up anyways. And if people, who know me, want to know about me, they can just ask ME. So I figure if people are willing to believe his ****, and most people know what he's like, then they can go **** themselves. They should know better.

Anyways, what's hilarious is that about a week later my uncle got sick and had to go to the ER for an upper respiratory infection. Just for all you who think he's literally dying, he's not, yet. He probably only has a couple of years left because of the amputation and how he takes care of himself, but if he were to start taking care of himself, he could recover and live longer. I digress.

Anyways, my dad sends me these nasty texts that, while they have information about my uncle's status, are meant to garner some kind of reaction out of me. I don't respond to them because I do not reward people who send me nasty, abusive texts with responses. I have boundaries and one of those is that when you can communicate with me civilly, then you will get a response.

I guess I'm now curious if anyone else has family members who send them nasty texts as their form of communication and do you respond? I think it's important to not reward that behavior. My dad thinks I'm a terrible person. I'm pretty clear on that. I'm not sure why he thinks these nasty texts help his case at all. If he wants me to do something, why does he think that calling me names or treating me poorly will get me to do any of the things he wants? I don't do things for people who treat me like ****...Why would I?

I see that his behavior is simply a carry-on of what he's done my entire life. Use force, abuse, and bullying to get what he wants. When I was a child and a young adult and indoctrinated to that behavior for my safety, it worked. But having been through lots of therapy and dealing with the PTSD and anxiety HE caused, no way in hell is a nasty text from him having any weight or bearing on me. In fact, I get these texts from him now and I just laugh and think "good for you, you know how to use a smartphone to call me names." In the past, I would have wanted to respond and do what he asked for the fear that my life depended on it. But it doesn't. So he really has no power. And his petty name calling is just that. This is the behavior of a narcissistic/NPD abuser. It's both hilarious to me to see it presented so obviously and sad to me that 1) I have to deal with him like I would deal with my dogs. Literally, when my dogs behave badly the punishment is that they get ignored. If they are jumping on me or barking at me for attention, we deal with that by walking away and removing what they want, which is attention from me. That I have to do the same with a grown man that I do with a dog is just sad. 2) Hilarious and sad to me that my dogs figure it out faster than he does. 3) Sad that a person truly feels the best way to deal with people you "love" is to be cruel to them. And doesn't see that cruelty in their own behavior. Can see nothing wrong with how they behave. I would love to live in a world where there was a possibility that I could somehow have a conversation with my father about things, but I frankly don't see that ever being a possibility, and I'm no longer open to it. There has been too much abuse and too much cruelty. I don't ever see anything positive coming out of a relationship with him other than a feeling that I'm meeting some societal obligation to have a relationship with my biological father.

Well, I digress. Back to the new question: does anyone actually respond to nasty texts or other communications from narcissists?