Okay, this is just a vent, and maybe a rhetorical question.

Here's the back story.

Admittedly, I follow a certain Facebook group just to watch the drama and laugh. Occasionally I comment. The admins/mods on this group are super biased, although they pretend they are not. On a couple of occasions, in threads where people are discussing different viewpoints very civilly, this one new mod keeps coming in and telling people to "keep it civil" when literally nothing uncivil has happened, other than sharing disparate viewpoints.

Fast forward. Today a person made a post. And I commented on something in the post, about a law and a lawyer's opinion on the law that was not correct as per the case law, and this new mod chimed in to disagree with me. I responded, making a distinction that what she said was not accurate in my opinion due to a specific distinction. She then argued that I was saying the same thing as her. I said we were not saying the same thing, and that I was trying to make a distinction, which is why I had responded the way I had.

So far, civil, right? Just discussion. Just two different viewpoints. Only like 3 comments.

Okay, so the new mod then tags the other mods/admins into the sub-thread of our comments, then tells me to re-read her first comment and to do it out loud to myself so I will understand, and she adds laughing emojis to her comment. So, to me, that's very condescending, nasty, and rude.

I responded to her that she didn't need to get nasty, and that we were saying different things. She may not understand that I'm saying something different, but I again explained the distinction I was making, and I said, you may disagree with the distinction I'm making, and that's fine. But you don't have to be nasty.

So then another admin, one who is very biased, chimed in, nasty as well, to support the new mod, to tell me I was being obtuse, etc... And that the new mod wasn't being nasty.

Well, thing is, I asked the new mod in the thread, why would you tag in the other admin then say something rude? And she said, because I know when I'm about to get nasty.

So...she tags the other admins so she can be nasty to me, simply because we're disagreeing. Nothing hostile has happened yet, but she wants to get nasty..and yet somehow I'm the passive aggressive one who is being nasty?

They are name calling and all sorts of crap...so whatever, I blocked them and left the group. It was time to go anyhow. I was getting really tired of the high schooler/mean girl mentality. The nature of the group is super immature anyhow.

What's funny is that the mod who came to the defense literally brought this new mod in so they would be less biased and have less hostility, and yet there they were, being super hostile and nasty, and WANTING to be.

I was just trying to have a discussion. And it's very likely the distinction I was making wasn't valid. But it was just discussion. I had no emotional investment in it. I mean, it wasn't even a real situation, just a theoretical.

So, I'm just venting that people literally have to get so nasty and hostile just because they hear something that disagrees with them. I'm not even talking about something that's personal. I get that, on PC, sometimes people get hurt because they need support and a dissenting viewpoint feels invalidating...that's not even what this was. This was literally just debating a point of law and the interpretation of what a phrase meant.

There's no love lost. These people were certainly not friends, and I certainly don't care about them or wish to be associated with them. In fact, I find a lot of what they do highly unethical and immorale. I actually feel sort of bad now for even following their group as long as I have. All they do is "shitlist" people and demand that they defend themselves in what are largely private disputes that are a matter of perspective, happening largely between people online (and mostly immature women, ages 18-25 who have never worked, don't go to school and are the essence of mean girls). They literally just talk behind each others' backs and spread gossip and rumors, and occasionally try to ruin someone life publicly. They make suicide threats and other ****...why I would ever have joined a group run by these sorts of people, who are in no way trustworthy at all...yeah...kinda questioning my own morality and character about this right now.

I think this came out because I'm doing a larger cleansing of stuff in my life lately. Some friends on here have noticed I haven't been around as much, and I'm spending less time on social media in general. It feels a lot healthier. I've been very busy, building my business and the life and future I want for myself. I still love my PC community but can't spend so much time here, and it feels healthier for me to not be so plugged in digitally all the time.

I guess I would just encourage others to remove themselves from friendships or groups that are set up just to tear others down and make sure they invest their time in relationships and communities that are their to build each other up, and resolve issues, versus feeding on the toxicity and drama.

I thought just watching the toxicity and drama would be funny and distracting...and it turned out to be just as bad as participating.