I had been the 24/7 sole caregiver to my mother with dementia for about three years. I would consider giving yourself alone time every day, such as going into your bedroom, closing the door, relax, and perhaps play some music and read a book. This does not have to take long. You need to try to take care of yourself as best as you can. You may not be able to plan on anything social, but I imagine you can invite others to the home from time to time.

Your mother will eventually get physically worse. You need to plan for this. How long are you going to try to keep her? What will have to happen before you need to find a placement for her? Will you quit your job to continue the care of your mother? Otherwise, who will check in on her until you get back from work? If necessary, who will take care of her during the day? Can you afford to hire a person for this? If you will eventually need to place her, how would you go about doing this? You need to plan ahead. Oh yes, kick that brother of yours in the you know where. Do not tolerate him doing this to you. If you need to, and you need to have time away, drop her off at your brothers with little notice, and let him deal with it as a responsible son. What is he going to do? Kick his own mother out of his house?

You need to be able to eventually represent your mother legally, so in time get her to sign a well written durable POA that you can use on her behalf. Then you can take care of all of her business for her. This helped me allot, even in ways that I did not anticipate. For instance, when I was burnt out and needed a few days away, I was able

I can give you more ideas, but I hope these suggestions of mine can help you.