This is definitely emotional/psychological abuse. Have you read up on the signs of emotional abuse? That may help you to identify his behaviors even better.

Abuse statistically worsens over time, unfortunately, and abusers rarely change unless they are threatened by someone leaving. Even then, they may make lots of empty promises, and never do actually change. I am sorry you're in this situation.

If you are married and have children together, it's more complicated to leave, but I would suggest rethinking this relationship.