MissCharlotte,
Here's the letter I wrote to you. I've got your back, Sister!

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He admitted that he mishandled the issue to begin with.

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Okay, that's great. His 'mishandling' has caused you a lot of intense pain. He told you once that what you felt was the pain of abandonment and now because he mishandled the situation you are going through this pain again. Hello, MissCharlotte's T, I believe the goal is to help the patient feel and release this pain SLOWLY so the intense emotions can be tolerated.

If I'm wrong, let me know, but I'm thinking that you must be feeling rejected AND abandoned. No wonder you are in so much pain! And then to be slapped in the face about being payed for the calls?? Echoes, let's go clobber this guy! Yes, I understand that this is his time and maybe he should be paid for it BUT that should have been set up from the start! IN NO WAY should he have asked you about payment at this time! Come on, Echoes, hurry up, let's go!

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Interestingly enough, I knew I was reaching a very old hurt and realization of self.

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Again, forgive me if I am projecting as this really hits a note with me, but I always tell my T that I fear that my neediness will sooner or later chase him away (abandonment issues). What in the @#$@ is your T thinking? Timing is everything and his sucks! It is okay for you to be needy - you shouldn't be ashamed in spite of his actions! Lean on us if you need to!

These boundaries should have been introduced in a timely fashion or better yet, at the beginning of therapy. You don't tell a patient that you're not going to let her use your buckets when the ship feels like it is sinking to her. You tell her at the beginning, if you start sinking I will only allow you to borrow two buckets, period. You tell her that you will not say only one bucket when you are in a time of need.

In my opinion, this is his sh*$, NOT YOURS! I hope you print this and show it to your T! I've already been banned from emailing my T and have no fears in this area, LOL. How dare he do this to you! I won't allow it! Echoes and I and anyone else who wants to join are coming to rescue you - screw the buckets! We are first going to save you, make sure you are safe, and then we are going to have words with your T.

Okay. Here's the plan. I'm going to come and save you. Here's how much I care for you - I'm taking the only flight available - snakes on a plane.



Echoes is coming by canoe.



We'll put you in this cave protected by an angelsmiley. You'll be safe here. Feel free to draw on the walls.



And then. . . this is your T:


And this is us . . .



I love you Miss Charlotte. Be safe. Peace be with you.