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I was recently banned, LOL, true story, from emailing AND phoning...
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Sol you crack me up. I think I'm afraid of being a pain in the butt. Even though, my emails or letters don't require her to do anything other than, print and file them, I still feel this way. I think she does actually read them, but I don't think she studies or analyzes them. I also keep things as short as possible 1-2 pages max.
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My opinion? I think that they should get paid for it. I think that it should be individualized and contracted based on the baseline data/needs of the patient.
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I think this is a good point. When I first started therapy I had no idea what to expect. I could barely call to make the appointment. So asking at that point what her rules were if I want to communicate with her outside of a session didn't even occur to me. I think in my first email to her, I think I started with...Feel free to charge me some "clinical reading fee" or something. When I came to the next session, she actually chuckled at that and said she doesn't charge patients for letters they write.
Here is an issue I have. If my therapist said to me: 'Hey, I accepted your letters in the beginning because you were having trouble. But now, you need to stop sending this crap.' I would be OK with that. I'd simply try to find some other solution for my session fallout. I might even be brave enough to ask some "what if" type questions and negotiate the rules.
However, my T is choosing
not to set a boundary and is leaving the choice to write or not totally up to me. Now, many people would welcome this freedom, but for me... I don't like that! My brain goes wild trying to figure out what is appropriate, how would a "normal" person deal with this freedom, what is she learning about me based on the boundaries I set for myself????? Maybe she truly doesn't give a crap what I do, but "I" care.
I know I am a freak
