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Hello All,
So I have been with a therapist since January of this year. I have discussed my husband on many occasions and decided to try marriage counseling. My therapist said that just listening to my accounts of my husband he has a good inclination that he most likely has high functioning Aspergers and it could explain a lot about my issues with him. He said he worked with Aspergers and Autism for a while and can spot them pretty quickly. Our first appointment together is this Thursday so he will be able to confirm or not.
Now I have gone online and read the horror stories of the poor wives regarding years of marriage to a man with undiagnosed husbands with Aspergers. It just does not fit me but I realize there is always a spectrum and the stories online are usually the most extreme. (I have been treated for BPD but high functioning and low on the spectrum but the stories on line were always extreme and really never truly fit my experience).
Can anyone tell me their experience and if their marriage has lasted or what helped.?
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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