I think I am probably in an abusive relationship with a Narcissist.

If someone speaks to you badly and is nasty to you, and deeply personal in their attack in response to something you've said (whether it was critical, or they've simply perceived it as a criticism - either way, it was not in a nasty tone), is it *ever* okay for them to tell you that it's your own fault for raising it with them/ bringing it up? Can someone ever tell you that the way they speak to you is YOUR own fault?

Or is that simply Narcissistic behaviour that will/can never change?