I did that before I finally left my bad marriage because I had enough & started striking out. I am NOT a narcissist by any streatch of anyone's imagination. I just had enough & it was my way of striking back until I was finally able to get out.

Was my response abusive in response to how I felt in my marriage?.....that would be a YES.

Was it a good way to respond?.....NO.

I had learned those coping skills when growing up in my dysfunctional family life & until I learned better skills those were what I fell back on in my own bad marriage.

I guess what I am saying is that.....YES, you could be dealing with a narcissist.....BUT you could also actually be dealing with some other cause for those behavioral traits.

As soon as I left my marriage my behaviors didn't follow except when under extreme stress & I worked hard myself & in therapy to fix the bad way I had of reacting to major stressful things in my life.

That behavior is NEVER right.....but the cause & correction does depend on the willingness & ability of the person to change.