Quote:
Originally Posted by Sisabel
It strikes me as especially sad that after being verbally abusive, she acts as though nothing ever happened. That really shows the lack of respect she has. Personally, I would limit my contact and I wouldn’t share much about myself. It might feel awkward at first but it might also soon feel like a huge relief.
|
It’s incredible that it’s taken me 50 years to really get this concept through my head and see it for that’s what it is. She always went on a verbally abusive attack on me then acted like nothing ever happened. When I confronted her in recent years, she said she wasn’t sorry and that I deserved it.
Not only does she go on an attack on me or one of my sisters, but then she will call everyone in her circle and bad mouth us to each other. I have even caught her telling lies about me to exaggerate the story and paint her as the victim.
Again...sounds like NPD to me. And here, my dysfunction in my marriage with my husband, causing me the worst crying, depressive hysteria I ever had, far worse than any blow out my mother ever caused... the Borderline traits came out due to my husband—not my mother.
My mother may have instilled the Borderline reaction, but my husband caused it to surface when I was in my late 30’s.
I’ve always handled my mother fairly well, even had a very good relationship with her for many years when I was single. It was my husband I couldn’t handle.