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Originally Posted by here today
Very good question. I need to think about it some, maybe more later.
Here's a quote from the article that exemplifies what I feel was a seduction and betrayal for me.
Despite many attempts, I did not find a therapist who could stick with me, who could sustain their commitment through dark and prickly times. That was what I was expecting, had been led to expect, had been "seduced" by -- the notion of a "therapeutic alliance", if I did my part. Referring me on after 6 years still seems like a betrayal to me. Turned out, the therapist could not keep her needs out of my way. She acknowledged that she had been triggered and then did not "have the emotional resources" to continue.
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That's my experience as well. I found the article to be an idealistic presentation of the therapist's role, the one that both a therapist and a client would like to believe, but not at all reflective of what really happens.
I too didn't find any therapist who would be able to keep their needs completely out of therapy room. I don't see how it is humanly possible to do that, and if it's not that the claim on the therapist's part that it is possible is what constitutes a deception to me.