See, I am trying to get five posts so I can go "chat" I think it is not fair. "But life is not fair" I told my daughter. How right I am, sounding just like my mother. Is it fair that your brother is missing part of his brain? No, of course not? Is it fair that you were the brightest child around until he came along and stole all the attention, and you looked so lost it made my heart ache so much? Is it FAIR that when you cry for help, people make you PAY for it by making you feel dependent, useless, telling you to pick yourself up by your bootstraps and get on with it, never even realizing that grief can go on and on? God - go take those pills, idiot, no one wants to hear your stupid ramblings