Hello G: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find PC to be of benefit.

One forum in particular, here on PC, that may be of interest would be the partners of people & caregivers forum. Here's a link:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/part...ivers-support/

Here are links to some articles, from PsychCentral's archives, that offer suggestions for how to support someone who struggles with anxiety:

How to Support an Anxious Partner

How To Help A Stressed Or Depressed Loved One

How Couples Can Help Each Other De-stress and Improve Their Relationship

How to Support a Person with Panic Attacks or Anxiety Attacks: | Mental Health Awareness

https://psychcentral.com/blog/do-you...-panic-attack/

And then here are links to some articles on the subject of personal boundaries, as well as on anxiety, that you might share with your hubby:

https://psychcentral.com/lib/the-imp...al-boundaries/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/what-ar...do-i-get-some/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/7-tips...aries-at-work/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/5-ways...ficult-people/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/21-tips...pleaser/?all=1

https://psychcentral.com/lib/9-ways-...dium=popular17

https://psychcentral.com/lib/15-smal...iety-symptoms/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/top-10-...s-for-anxiety/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/20-tips...dium=popular17

My best wishes to you both...