Yeah i am in agreement with both as well... my t did charge for phone calls that lasted longer than 5 minutes... it was pro-rated off our actual fees. But that was known from the get go... it also felt like a slap in the face. I nver called her and felt i could never, even if my life depended on it. After half a year she also started charging for emails (longer than 5 pages) mine were usually 10, but i dnd't talk in session, so she was not as strct with me. But i couldn't deal with the inconsistancies of her personality or how she might miss my time (which happened at least twice) but then the one time i missed hers, she said she'd charge me if it ever happened again. And yet she did help me learn a lot and gain new insights... but the instability was too familiar and i found myself being my chamelion self - changing on depending on who she was... which wasn't healthy.
I've read your posts and know how much you care about your t and what you've learned... this is one of those precarious things and i just hope for the best for you both.

(((((((((((((holding you both, with room)))))))))))))))))))))))
kiya