"Of course this also raises the question: In my mind is the need for a simple, warm conversation EVER a good enough reason for me to seek to connect with anyone? Again my initial response is... well, YES! But I'm not sure I really believe this. "

=( exactly what i was thinking. And i often end up not calling "friends" because of it. I call to check on them or care for them... but never when i am lonely or scared. I come here instead. I often wonder if i am wasting my t's time and energy. I decided to limit writing t emails because her last response to me (2 in the past 5 months of getting to know each other) seemed to be a mental struggle for her. I haven't written since. For a while i was writing antyhing i hadn't spoken or scary things that came up that i knew i wouldn't talk about. Last time i wrote to figure out what we'd talked about and make sure i was clear... But i think i am stopping for a while.
kiya