My dad has been having issues in recent years. I won't go into all of them, but so many times when I make arrangements to visit him he's not at home, at home but then says he "has to leave", or is napping. I always tell him when to expect me.

It's not just me. He neglects my siblings and only surviving nephew on that side, too. He's self-centered and puts cafe and bar cronies, and his enabler girlfriend before us all. We have never been anything but caring to him, but it's so upsetting. I talk about the issue with my therapist and psychiatrist all of the time. Pdoc says to just accept it. I have told my therapist that it's almost as if we have no parents left (my mom tragically died of cancer 15 years ago).

When I left his house, not seeing him, I went to a museum alone that he was supposed to be joining me for. I was so upset that at the museum I was sweating profusely so I left early and drove straight home (not his house). When I got home he had left a message with an apology. Not a really regretful one. I cannot call him back. I feel ill and have a bad headache. I was almost crying when I called my husband. Hubby knows dad well. He is sad for me.