I kind of have the same relationship with my mother. When I was younger and still living at the house the only time we interacted was to fight. I cannot remember a time where we interacted that didn't lead to a fight. When I moved out it got a little better but she still doesn't show me the same affection she shows my brother. He's a BIG time mama's boy. I mean to the extent of touching, hugging, holding hands, her rubbing his back, etc, etc, etc...

It's actually worse, because my younger sister and my father are the same way. He'll do ANYTHING for her. He leaves work when she needs help, he'll go by her house to do whatever she needs (even though she lives 20 mins away), he basically bends over backwards for her.

This is how bad it really is (and this really did and still does piss me off when I think about it!), in May I had a stroke that lead to a seizure because of a hole in my heart. I spent 6 days in the hospital and even had heart surgery to repair the hole in my heart. You know what they did? They planned a vacation, with my sister, while I was in the hospital! They booked the hotel and the plane tickets WHILE I was in surgery! The fact that I was in the hospital didn't even hinder their plans for a vacation the following week. That's how much my dad loves my sister. He would rather make sure that his vacation plans with my sister, because the whole trip was her idea and god forbid princess goes on the trip alone, were in place then to worry about me and my surgery.

And where does that leave me? Not daddy's princess and not mom's daughter. It was hard, really hard, but I've slowly (though if you ask the wife she would say I'm still working on it) getting over it. I'm beginning to be at peace with the fact that I will never be their favorite and will always come second fiddle to either one of siblings. I luckily have my wife that I can turn to and she's been my rock through dealing with all this. Trust me, there have been many days & nights of crying and self pity.

I wish I had better news, or something to offer, but I don't... sorry. But I did want you to know that you're not alone and that with help from someone you love, or with the help of a therapist (which I have worked with on this very matter), you can at least learn to accept it and not let it bother you. You can't change your mom's attitude with you or your brother but you can change the way you react and how it bothers you.