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Old Aug 15, 2018, 04:44 PM
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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight View Post
Dear T,
I love you. Would never tell you that though. But then...maybe you'd get it. Because it's about what you are to me. Less about you as a person or anything I'd expect from you. But about what/who you are to me, what you represent, how you understand and accept. How you get me. How you accept. I know I said that "accept" one twice, but it's important and a big deal to me....

Love,

LT

PS--If you ever asked, I'd totally deny the "I love you" part because it's way too scary and has too much of a threat of rejection. But...I feel at this point in our relationship, there's maybe a tiny chance it would be OK? But probably not, so no way in hell I'd risk that. I value our relationship too much.
I said I love you to my second T in writing a few times. It was scary the first time but not the second or third or fourth. I don't think there is anything wrong in loving your T. I think it's hard that they don't love back in the same way that we love them. I never expected my T to say I love you back, though I suspect she does at least care for me a lot. But I totally get not wanting to be vulnerable and tell T that you love them. The risk of rejection feels too high.
Hugs from:
Anastasia~
Thanks for this!
LonesomeTonight