I cannot post on that thread, I guess the OP has me blocked

But just wanted to say, after really giving that post some thought, I kind of agree there. I must have chose the wrong therapist from the very start, because I was under the impression that therapy was supposed to be about the client and their issues and needs, but over the last four years, I've learned it appears like the complete opposite! But then I've caught myself playing into that by not wanting to "hurt the therapist's feelings" by saying what's really on my mind. That is one area where I still need to grow, and a lot! But I'm thankful I recognize that. I know, over the past four years, I've received more support here than I ever have from someone being paid to "be there," I'm so thankful for this forum.

But in my experience, therapy revolved more around the needs/comfort of the therapist than me. I was deceived from the start...I was just shy of 40 when I started therapy, and I had stuffed everything down all my life, so talking openly about trauma/feelings did NOT come easily for me. It probably took me a good 6 months to open up just enough to get the work started. This psychologist of 20-some years started providing special treatment to help me learn to trust and open up....then when she thought she accomplished what she wanted, she abruptly took all of that special treatment away without discussion. My feelings around all of this had me feeling very ashamed (still am), and I was severely retraumatized by her actions. I hate to use that word, but it woke up all those old hurts from the past that I had just stuffed down deep. Someone I had just learned to trust was treating me very much the same way as those people in the past. I have spent the last three years trying to rebuild trust and connection....but it just hasn't happened. I honestly do not believe the initial hurts caused by the therapist were intentional in any way. She meant well, it just went horribly wrong. She is now retiring from clinical work the end of the year...so I'm heavily weighing the pros and cons of finding another T, or just giving up all together. She was not my only T these last four years....one of the others hurt me pretty badly too. Anyway....good post! I just wanted to be able to respond.