2fargone,

I can really relate to your situation with your kids! My eldest has special needs, my daughter is bright and I have twins that are the babies. My daughter has gone through stages thinking that we’ve somehow loved the boys more because at times they’ve needed more attention. No matter how often we told her we love her and are proud of her, there’s still a piece of her that believes she’s been cheated.

She’s 18 now, she’s been the only one that we’ve purchased vehicles for, and since she’s been so responsible and independent in her life, she’s been given more privileges than her brothers. She’ll make a comment about me helping the boys with their homework and not helping her. First of all, she never asked for help, secondly, she’s been smarter and better educated than I since she was in Jr. High. I know it’s just the attention, and I am truly sorry that she feels that she hasn’t got enough.

She gets irritated with me because she thinks that I push her, expect more of her than I do her elder brother. From the moment she could speak she was truly an incredible human being. I cannot wait to see what she does with her life, and I’ve told her so. She once responded to that statement with “what if I just want to be a mother?” I told her that there is no “just” in being a mother and she’ll be amazing at that too.

I’m really glad that you found the sight 2fargone! The five posts before you can chat is a relatively new rule I think. I imagine it has something to do with the fact there were a couple of people that joined the site to solcit.

We definitely want to hear you! Your posts are neither ramblings or stupid!