i'm glad you started your own thread to discuss this. my experience with therapy was quite similar to yours. i don't think my ex-T intentionally set out to harm me, which, similar to you at times felt more like a re-traumatizing of old wounds instead of helping them heal, but i do believe it was because of his own incompetency and especially what you said here:
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Originally Posted by musinglizzy
But in my experience, therapy revolved more around the needs/comfort of the therapist than me.
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a lot of therapy, especially the non-stop and overbearing focus on the therapeutic relationship, felt like it was more about his needs than mine. it took me a while to fully recognise and acknowledge that.
i'm sorry that you have experienced similar. i find that a lot of people, clients and therapists, don't fully understand this or sympathise unless they have experienced similar themselves.
