Honestly if i didnt feel bad when i do wrong id probably be a pretty bad person. I think the trick is not to never fear but to fear the right things. I do think most people have to feel whether fear or guilt or whatever. These feelings are good and natural in the right proportion and for the right reasons. I agree with you eskielover. I guess it sounds creepy that in parenting you may evoke a bad feeling but my dogs do it in rearing pups and i have one dog the likes to misbehave and he improves with the bad dog guilt thingy. My other dog you can reason with. Just different dogs i guess. I never think its right to have children fear you or anything like that. I wish my folks would have explained stuff to us. We just got hit. No explanation. Sometimes we didnt even know why.