You know, I did this - stated my needs, asked questions - to this "friend" I had. And she responded with a nasty email. I didn't do anything wrong. I just told her what I needed - to know where I stand. I realize I was being healthy. She couldn't handle it. I guess you find out who are your friends. I'm real good about asking for what I need usually. I learned this a while back. I think that's one really good healthy thing about me.