The emotion that comes up most for me in therapy is shame. I stopped seeing this ex- T two years ago, and saw another wonderful T after that, and when I told her things that ex-T had said I could see that she didn't think much of her. I had to stop seeing wonderful T due to her ill health. Now the feelings of shame that I had around the ex-T have resurfaced and I seem to be stuck with them. I don't know how to make them go away. She lives in the same town as me, I would really really hate to ever encounter her again. Thoughts about her come into my head every day. I am trying to just think of happy things instead whenever the thoughts come. It is hard for me to view her as having been a 'bad' T. I was attached to her and I liked her so much, I respected her. I felt terrible when I stopped seeing her, but I couldn't go on, she could never seem to talk to me about ruptures we had, or anything that I brought up about our relationship. I suppose she can't have been a good T if this is how my therapy with her left me. Therapy is supposed to help you, not make you feel like this. Despite knowing that, I blame myself for the failure of that relationship.